5 Irish Man Character Traits
5 Irish Man Character Traits
I have now been in a relationship with an Irish Man for almost seven years, married for four, and during those years I have laughed, cried and loved. Honestly until I met Declan I always said I’d never go out with an Irish man, and here I am happily married to one! Irish men had never appealed to me before, as somewhat naively, all I could think of were alcoholic, freckly red heads. Furthermore I couldn’t understand a word many of them were saying! Oh how wrong was I? I must say sometimes I doubt my husband is Irish and even wrote a blog, Is He Really Irish. Since living in Ireland I have met countless Irish men and discovered many common character traits. So here are 5 Irish Man Character Traits which can be both charming and frustrating!
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Emotional? Are You Kidding Me!
Irish men don’t show their emotions, simple. It is like they are afraid of them or believe it’s a sign of weakness. I believe Irish men will cry only for things they really truly love or loved, for example my husband shed a tear one Christmas when I gave him a football album containing all tickets of football matches he ever attended. Staying with the football theme, at the end of the movie called “United”, which was based on the true story of the Munich plane crash in 1958, where members of the Manchester United squad tragically died, I also spotted Declan shedding some rare tears, something I have never seen him do after a movie.
As you can see these are things that my husband absolutely loves and feels passionately about which made him weepy. Come to think of it, I think football is the love of his life! I’m the romantic type, I love romance and blubber like a baby at the sight of true love. If you’re a romantic person seeking passion, love poems and serenades turn around and walk away cause you ain’t going to find it from the majority of Irish men. Don’t get me wrong, once an Irish man expresses his love you grab it, hold on to it and cherish it. Sadly more often than not you will find your average Irishman displaying all his passion towards 11 men kicking a ball at the weekends or 15 if they support Gaelic games.
I can almost guarantee that any Irish man you ask, if they watch The Simpsons? They will reply “yes” or “I used to”. I don’t know what it is, but it is just something the Irish, predominately the males, watch on a regular basis. All of my husband’s friends are either Simpsons fanatics or have watched many episodes and they are aged in their thirties. Until today, after seven years of being together, my husband still cracks Simpson jokes during various everyday situations hoping I understand them, but unfortunately I don’t. It may seem like a childish cartoon to the outside onlooker but my husband assures me that it is an accurate and realistic reflection of modern life. Subtle jokes lie throughout each episode and both children and adults can enjoy them.
He also tells me how life in Ireland was ruled, relatively recently, by the church and their teachings, so frequent jokes about the existence of god, homosexuality and drug references are a refreshing change to Irish TV screens of the past when ridiculous censoring was in place, for example books such as Brendan Behan’s Borstal Boy banned in 1958. The Irish Censorship of Publications Board was not obliged to reveal its reason for its censoring but it is believed that it was rejected for its critique of Irish republicanism and the Catholic Church, and its depiction of adolescent sexuality.
Furthermore Declan remembers when Madonna videos were censored on TV here and this was during the early 1990’s! Shows like The Simpsons and other animations such as Family Guy are a far cry from those days with frequent jokes about the church and sexuality commonplace, moreover they are a gentle kick in the teeth to the PC brigade of today who feel the need to whinge and complain about trivial things in life. As I am becoming more familiar with the cartoons I am slowly starting to get the humour which is quite different to Polish humour.
The one thing I have noticed about Irish society is that the mother plays a huge part in an Irish man’s life. One irritating habit I have noticed is the use of the word “Mammy”, thankfully my husband does not use it but many do, he sticks with “Ma”. I don’t mind a young child using the term “Mammy” but coming from a grown adult it just sounds wrong. For many Irishmen Mammy is the world and she will continue to buy the socks, do the laundry and feed them when needed. Fortunately for me Declan isn’t a fan of the traditional Irish dinner so prefers to cook his own food, and he definitely knows where to buy his own socks!
As mentioned previously I’m not a fan of hearing grown men or women calling their mother, “Mammy”, but I do find the warm relationship charming. I guess in the end it only shows how much they care for each other, which can’t be a bad thing, but beware if you do intend on dating an Irishman just make sure he doesn’t need his “Mammy” to wipe his bum!, as many seem to do. Shows like Brendan O’Carroll’s Mrs Brown’s Boys have been a huge success around the globe with the stereotypical Irish “Mammy” at the show’s core. I haven’t even mentioned the wooden spoon in Irish society, an Irish Mammy’s weapon of choice! Overall though it’s a good barometer, if a man cannot treat his mother right then what hope has any other woman?
I recently had a friend from Canada visiting me in Ireland and she couldn’t believe how friendly and chatty the Irish men were. Well of course they are, they see a beautiful girl and just feel the need to chat her up! I truly believe Irish men are born with the natural flirt instinct, a normal conversation can be very flirtatious whether they know it or not, and trust me a lot of men don’t even know they are doing it! So when you see your man having a flirtatious conversation with another girl, don’t go crazy, he seriously can’t help it. In Ireland you can also walk into a pub or shop and immediately be involved in a full-blown conversation with a total stranger. They say woman are the chatty and gossiping ones, but honestly this is debatable, Irish men gossip just as much, if not even more, especially when there is a few pints in front of them!
Broken leg, “Ahh sure, I’m Grand”
There are many hypochondriacs in this world and I can assure you Irish men ain’t some of them. An Irish man can live in pain on a daily basis and still refuse to admit there is something wrong. This is actually a great asset as they sure won’t complain every time they have a sore head or tummy like us. On the flip side once you force them to the doctor and they admit they are sick be sure to have a dying man on your hands! Overall this strength to persevere is admirable but it does have a negative side. My husband tells me that years ago Irishmen were very closed about their health and as a result many died from illnesses which may have been cured if they only visited a health professional sooner. Maybe they see illness as a sign of weakness and this viewpoint still persists among many Irish males today. It is sad to see such a high-rise of male suicide in this country with mental health a taboo subject until recent years. Yes us girls love that you Irish guys don’t let a papercut stop you but ignoring something more serious is not a good look.
5 Irish Man Character Traits. Maybe most, if not all these character traits could be attributed for males from all over the world, not just Ireland. Maybe your American guy, Brazilian, South African or Australian man share common ground. If you do fall for an Irishman be warned, you may not be serenaded with poetry everyday but their tough exterior disguises a big heart. The old days of the hard-drinking and fashion unconscious Irishman seems to be dying out, judging by over priced craft beer drinking, salad munching, hipsters of post Celtic Tiger Ireland, but never fear that Irish spirit is still there under those tight skinny jeans and loafers!
5 Irish Man Character Traits